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Marshall
Goldsmith is one of the world’s foremost authorities in helping leaders
achieve positive, measurable change in behavior: for themselves, their
people and their teams. He is Founder of Marshall Goldsmith Partners and
can be reached at www.marshallgoldsmith.com
Marshall
is a founding director of A4SL - The Alliance for Strategic Leadership,
a consulting alliance that includes over 200 top professionals in the
field of leadership development ( www.A4SL.com ).
He is also the co-founder of the Financial Times Knowledge Dialogue, a
videoconference network that connects executives with the world’s
greatest thinkers. He has a Ph.D. from UCLA. He is on the faculty of the
global executive education program for Dartmouth, Michigan and Oxford (
UK ) Universities. Marshall has partnerships with Hewitt Associates and
Russell Reynolds to provide coaching for leaders around the globe. He
has served on the Board of the Peter Drucker Foundation for ten years.
Marshall’s
fourteen books include: The Leader of the Future ( a Business Week “Top
15” best-seller ), Learning Journeys and Coaching for Leadership.
P.O. Box 9710, 16770 Via de los Rosales, Rancho Santa Fe, CA 92067-9710,
Phone: +1 858 759-0950 Fax: +1 858 759-0550
Adapted from "Leader to Leader" Magazine, Summer, 2002 © Marshall Goldsmith 2002
Giving
and receiving feedback has long been considered to be an essential skill
for leaders. As they strive to achieve the goals of the organization,
employees need to know how they are doing. They need to know if their
performance is what their leaders expect from them and, if not, they
need suggestions on how to improve it. Traditionally, this information
has been communicated in the form of feedback from leaders to their
employees. And, leaders themselves need feedback from their employees,
in the form of suggestions for how to improve procedures and processes,
innovative ideas for new products and services, and input on their own
leadership styles. This has become increasingly common with the advent
of 360º feedback.
But
there is a fundamental problem with feedback : it focuses on that past,
on what has already occurred - not on the infinite variety of things
that can be in the future. As such, feedback can be limited and static,
as opposed to expansive and dynamic.
Over
the past several years, I have observed more than five thousand leaders
as they participated in a fascinating experiential exercise. In the
exercise, participants are each asked to play two roles. In one role,
they are asked provide feedforward - that is, to give someone else
suggestions for the future and help as much as they can. In the second
role, they are asked to accept feedforward - that is, to listen to the
suggestions for the future and learn as much as they can. The exercise
typically lasts for 10-15 minutes, and the average participant has 6-7
dialogue sessions. In the exercise participants are asked to:
- Pick one behavior that they would
like to change. Change in this behavior should make a significant,
positive difference in their lives.
- Describe this behavior to randomly
selected fellow participants. This is done in one-on-one dialogues. It
can be done quite simply, such as, “I want to be a better listener.”
- Ask for feedforward - for two
suggestions for the future that might help them achieve a positive
change in their selected behavior. If participants have worked together
in the past, they are not allowed to give ANY feedback about the past.
They are only allowed to give ideas for the future.
- Listen attentively to the
suggestions and take notes. Participants are not allowed to comment on
the suggestions in any way. They are not allowed to critique the
suggestions or even to make positive judgmental statements, such as,
“That’s a good idea.”
- Thank the other participants for their suggestions.
- Ask the other persons what they would like to change.
- Provide feedforward - two suggestions aimed at helping them change.
- Say, “You are welcome.” when thanked
for the suggestions. The entire process of both giving and receiving
feedforward usually takes about two minutes.
- Find another participant and keep repeating the process until the exercise is stopped.
When
the exercise is finished, I ask participants to provide one word that
best describes their reaction to this experience. I ask them to complete
the sentence, “This exercise was …”. The words provided are almost
always extremely positive, such as “great”, “energizing”, “useful” or
“helpful.” The most common word mentioned is “fun !”
What is the last word that most of us think about when we receive coaching and developmental ideas ? Fun !
Ten Reasons to Try Feedforward
Participants
are then asked why this exercise is seen as fun and helpful as opposed
to painful, embarrassing or uncomfortable. Their answers provide a great
explanation of why feedforward can often be more useful than feedback.
- We can change the future.
We can’t change the past. Feedforward helps people envision and focus
on a positive future, not a failed past. Athletes are often trained
using feedforward. Racecar drivers are taught to, “look at the road, not
the wall.” Basketball players are taught to envision the ball going in
the hoop and to imagine the perfect shot. By giving people ideas on how
they can be even more successful, we can increase their chances of
achieving this success in the future.
- It can be more productive to help people be “right,” than prove they were “wrong.” Negative
feedback often becomes an exercise in “let me prove you were wrong.”
This tends to produce defensiveness on the part of the receiver and
discomfort on the part of the sender. Even constructively delivered
feedback is often seen as negative as it necessarily involves a
discussion of mistakes, shortfalls, and problems. Feedforward, on the
other hand, is almost always seen as positive because it focuses on
solutions.
- Feedforward is especially suited to successful people.
Successful people like getting ideas that are aimed at helping them
achieve their goals. They tend to resist negative judgment. We all tend
to accept feedback that is consistent with the way we see ourselves. We
also tend to reject or deny feedback that is inconsistent with the way
we see ourselves. Successful people tend to have a very positive
self-image. I have observed many successful executives respond to ( and
even enjoy ) feedforward. I am not sure that these same people would
have had such a positive reaction to feedback.
- Feedforward can come from anyone who knows about the task.
It does not require personal experience with the individual. One very
common positive reaction to the previously described exercise is that
participants are amazed by how much they can learn from people that they
don’t know ! For example, if you want to be a better listener, almost
any fellow leader can give you ideas on how you can improve. They don’t
have to know you. Feedback requires knowing about the person.
Feedforward just requires having good ideas for achieving the task.
- People do not take feedforward as personally as feedback.
In theory, constructive feedback is supposed to “focus on the
performance, not the person”. In practice, almost all feedback is taken
personally ( no matter how it is delivered ). Successful people’s sense
of identity is highly connected with their work. The more successful
people are, the more this tends to be true. It is hard to give a
dedicated professional feedback that is not taken personally.
Feedforward cannot involve a personal critique, since it is discussing
something that has not yet happened!
- Feedback can reinforce personal stereotyping and negative self-fulfilling prophecies.
Feedforward can reinforce the possibility of change. Feedback can
reinforce the feeling of failure. How many of us have been “helped” by a
spouse, significant other or friend, who seems to have a
near-photographic memory of our previous “sins” that they share with us
in order to point out the history of our shortcomings. Negative feedback
can be used to reinforce the message, “this is just the way you are”.
Feedforward is based on the assumption that people can make positive
changes in the future.
- Face it ! Most of us hate getting negative feedback, and we don’t like to give it.
I have reviewed summary 360° feedback reports for over 50 companies.
The items, “provides developmental feedback in a timely manner” and
“encourages and accepts constructive criticism” almost always score near
the bottom on co-worker satisfaction with leaders. Traditional training
does not seem to make a great deal of difference. If leaders got better
at providing feedback every time the performance appraisal forms were
“improved”, most should be perfect by now ! Leaders are not very good at
giving or receiving negative feedback. It is unlikely that this will
change in the near future.
- Feedforward can cover almost all of the same “material” as feedback.
Imagine that you have just made a terrible presentation in front of the
executive committee. Your manager is in the room. Rather than make you
“relive” this humiliating experience, your manager might help you
prepare for future presentations by giving you suggestions for the
future. These suggestions can be very specific and still delivered in a
positive way. In this way your manager can “cover the same points”
without feeling as embarrassed and without making you feel even more
humiliated.
- Feedforward tends to be much faster and more efficient than feedback.
An excellent technique for giving ideas to successful people is to say,
“Here are four ideas for the future. Please accept these in the
positive spirit that they are given. If you can only use two of the
ideas, you are still two ahead. Just ignore what doesn't make sense for
you.” With this approach almost no time gets wasted on judging the
quality of the ideas or “proving that the ideas are wrong”. This
“debate” time is usually negative; it can take up a lot of time, and it
is often not very productive. By eliminating judgement of the ideas, the
process becomes much more positive for the sender, as well as the
receiver. Successful people tend to have a high need for
self-determination and will tend to accept ideas that they “buy” while
rejecting ideas that feel “forced” upon them.
- Feedforward can be a useful tool to apply with managers, peers and team members.
Rightly or wrongly, feedback is associated with judgement. This can
lead to very negative unintended consequences when applied to managers
or peers. Feedforward does not imply superiority of judgment. It is more
focused on being a helpful “fellow traveller” than an “expert”. As such
it can be easier to hear from a person who is not in a position of
power or authority. An excellent team building exercise is to have each
team member ask, “How can I better help our team in the future ?” and
listen to feedforward from fellow team members ( in one-on-one dialogues
).
In
summary, the intent of this article is not to imply that leaders should
never give feedback or that performance appraisals should be abandoned.
The intent is to show how feedforward can often be preferable to
feedback in day-to-day interactions. Aside from its effectiveness and
efficiency, feedforward can make life a lot more enjoyable. When
managers are asked, “How did you feel the last time you received
feedback ?” their most common responses are very negative. When managers
are asked how they felt after receiving feedforward, they reply that
feedforward was not only useful, it was also fun !
Quality
communication - between and among people at all levels and every
department and division - is the glue that holds organizations together.
By using feedforward - and by encouraging others to use it - leaders
can dramatically improve the quality of communication in their
organizations, ensuring that the right message is conveyed, and that
those who receive it are receptive to its content. The result is a much
more dynamic, much more open organization - one whose employees focus on
the promise of the future rather than the mistakes of the past.
Source:leader-values.com
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